Are you tired of attracting the same kind of person?
The emotionally unavailable person.
The person who can't commit.
The person who needs rescuing.
The person who keeps you guessing, waiting and hoping that this time things will be different.
Or perhaps you finally meet a good person — and discover that something inside you struggles to receive their love, trust their presence or commit yourself fully.
You may have done years of inner work. You understand attachment styles, childhood wounds and relationship patterns.
And yet, when you fall in love, something happens.
You lose your boundaries. You question your worth. You abandon your needs. You become preoccupied with what they want, how they feel and whether they'll choose you.
You know the pattern. But knowing hasn't been enough to change it.
What if it's time to change your relationship with the masculine — from the inside out?
The masculine you long for may hold qualities you haven't yet learned to access within yourself.
Presence. Protection. Direction. Integrity. Discipline. Commitment. Power.
Perhaps you grew up with an absent, critical or emotionally unavailable father.
Perhaps you learned that love had to be earned through being good, helpful, beautiful, successful or sexually desirable.
Perhaps nobody ever showed you what healthy masculine presence feels like.
So you learned to seek it in others.
Or you became the one who holds everything together.
The capable woman. The caretaker. The rescuer. The one who gives more than she receives.
But underneath that competence, there may be a deep longing to finally feel held, chosen and supported.
This initiation is an invitation to discover a new relationship with the masculine.
Not by becoming less feminine.
But by reclaiming the masculine qualities that allow you to stand in your truth, protect what is precious to you and consciously choose the love you want.
Imagine what could change.
Imagine recognising an emotionally unavailable person before you've invested months trying to win their love.
Imagine expressing your boundaries without feeling that you're risking your worth.
Imagine knowing when to take responsibility — and when to stop carrying someone else's life.
Imagine feeling your desires without needing to act on them to receive reassurance.
Imagine being able to surrender in intimacy because you know you can trust yourself to speak up, choose and say no.
Imagine having your own purpose, direction and devotion to life, whether you're single or partnered.
Imagine becoming a woman who can love deeply without losing herself.
This is not another course about understanding your patterns.
This is an initiation into a different experience of yourself.
Over six weeks, we'll work with the Light and Dark Masculine through embodiment, archetypal practices, ritual, shadow work, inner-child exploration and conscious relationship practices.
Not masculinity as a gender identity. Not a prescription for how men should behave.
But a set of universal human capacities available to people of every gender.
The Light Masculine Archetype represents presence, consciousness, focused awareness, clarity and purpose.
The Dark Masculine Archetype represents willpower, determination, boundaries, discipline, protection, direction and the capacity to initiate intentional action.
Together, these qualities support our ability to stand for ourselves, move towards what matters and remain devoted to our own lives — even when love feels uncertain.
Rather than seeking all of this from someone else, we begin developing a different relationship with these capacities within ourselves.
And from that place, we can begin choosing differently.
JOIN THE INITIATION FOR £300
This journey is for you if…
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You're tired of repeating painful patterns with emotionally unavailable or inconsistent people.
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You find yourself losing your boundaries, needs or sense of self when you fall in love.
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You're drawn to intense chemistry but struggle to recognise genuinely healthy intimacy.
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You have a history of people-pleasing, rescuing, overgiving or trying to earn love.
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You understand your patterns intellectually but want to transform them through embodied experience.
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You want to feel more secure, intentional and powerful in your romantic choices.
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You're ready to take responsibility for your own journey without blaming or trying to change another person.
You don't need to be in a relationship to join.
You don't need to be attracted to men.
And you don't need any previous experience with archetypal or embodiment work.
INITIATE welcomes women of all sexual orientations, including lesbians, bisexuals, and queers.
The work moves through four stages:
SEE
Recognise the patterns. Discover how your history, beliefs and attachment strategies influence the people you choose and the ways you relate.
MEET
Encounter the shadow. Explore the wounded and protective parts that fear rejection, intimacy, power or abandonment.
EMBODY
Reclaim your capacities. Experience presence, boundaries, protection, discernment, discipline and conscious action in your body.
CHOOSE
Live differently. Bring your discoveries into real decisions about relationships, intimacy, responsibility and your future.
The relationship you have with yourself changes the relationships you choose
Much of what we experience in romantic relationships is shaped long before we fall in love.
Our earliest experiences of love, protection, attention, authority and belonging influence what feels familiar, what feels safe and what we believe we must do to be loved.
Sometimes we learn to earn love through pleasing.
Sometimes we become the strong one who never needs anything.
Sometimes we confuse longing with passion, uncertainty with chemistry or self-sacrifice with devotion.
And sometimes we wait for another person to give us the very qualities we have not yet learned to cultivate within ourselves.
INITIATE is an invitation to stop waiting and begin embodying those qualities yourself.
I'M BIBI.
For much of my life, I was drawn to emotionally unavailable partners, people who couldn't commit — or relationships in which I wasn't truly available for commitment myself. I was often involved with married people, and underneath it all was my own complicated relationship with intimacy and commitment.
Through years of deep self-study, extended periods of celibacy and consciously transforming my relationship with my inner Masculine Archetype, something fundamentally shifted. I began attracting and choosing a different quality of partner.
That doesn't mean relationship challenges disappear. But it changes how we meet them — and what we're no longer willing to abandon in ourselves.
For the past seven years, I've worked with hundreds of people in transforming their relationships and sexuality, drawing on extensive training in relationship coaching, Tantra, archetypal psychology, shadow work, systemic constellations and somatic practices.
I bring together professional expertise, embodied practice and lived transformation. I don't just understand these patterns. I've lived them — and I've experienced what becomes possible when they change.
Your six-week initiation
8 November – 13 December · Sundays from 5-7 pm UK · Live online
This isn't simply another course about relationships.
It's an embodied journey through the patterns, wounds, protective strategies and untapped capacities that shape how you love.
WEEK 1: 8 NOVEMBER
The Father: The Masculine You Learned to Love
Before we consciously choose a romantic partner, we've already formed ideas about love, safety, attention and what to expect from others.
We'll explore your earliest experiences of the masculine, including father wounds, absence, inconsistency, attachment patterns and the beliefs you inherited about love.
The invitation: See the relationship patterns you inherited without allowing them to define your future.
WEEK 2: 15 NOVEMBER
The Witness: Becoming Your Own Safe Presence
This week, we explore the Light Masculine Archetype: consciousness, presence, focused awareness and the capacity to witness your experience without being consumed by it.
We'll work with shame, self-worth, inner steadiness and the ability to remain connected to yourself when relationships feel uncertain.
The invitation: Become a safe, steady presence for yourself rather than depending entirely on another person's attention.
WEEK 3: 22 NOVEMBER
The Warrior: The Courage to Stand for Yourself
How often do you know what you need but struggle to express it?
How often do you say yes when your body says no?
This week, we explore the Dark Masculine Archetype through boundaries, healthy anger, willpower, integrity and the courage to disappoint others.
We'll look at people-pleasing, rescuing, overgiving, self-betrayal and the difference between taking responsibility and carrying what belongs to someone else.
The invitation: Stop sacrificing your truth to maintain connection.
WEEK 4: 29 NOVEMBER
The Lover: When Desire Becomes Self-Betrayal
Have you ever used sex, desirability or intimacy to feel chosen, loved or reassured?
Have you stayed sexually available when you weren't genuinely wanting to be?
Or found yourself disconnecting from your own pleasure because you were so focused on someone else's experience?
This week, we'll explore the relationship between sexuality, shame, longing, authentic desire and self-worth.
We'll examine how sexual patterns can reinforce self-abandonment — and how pleasure, consent and embodied awareness can become pathways back to ourselves.
All intimate practices are optional, and any personal sexual exploration takes place privately.
The invitation: Discover what it means to honour your desire without using your body to earn love.
WEEK 5: 6 DECEMBER
The Healthy Masculine: Choosing a Different Kind of Love
How do you recognise a healthy relationship when intensity, longing or uncertainty have become familiar?
What does emotional availability actually look like?
And are you able to receive the kind of love you say you want?
This week, we'll explore discernment, commitment, integrity, consistency, accountability and the capacity to repair after conflict.
We'll also look at our own relationship with intimacy, vulnerability and commitment.
You'll develop Your Healthy Masculine Compass — a personal exploration of the qualities and observable behaviours that matter to you in a relationship.
The invitation: Learn to recognise and choose love based on what is actually present, rather than what you hope someone might become.
WEEK 6: 13 DECEMBER
The Initiation: A Woman Who Knows Where She's Going
Who are you becoming when your life is no longer organised around being chosen?
What do you want to create, experience and devote yourself to?
In our final week, we bring the journey together through purpose, vision, focused intention, discipline and self-devotion.
We'll explore how to move towards the life and relationships you desire without needing certainty about how everything will unfold.
Through an embodied closing initiation, you'll be invited to make a deeper commitment to yourself and the woman you are becoming.
The invitation: Whatever happens, I won't give up on myself.
Before we begin: Creating your container
Your initiation begins before our first live session.
You'll receive a guided video to help you create your personal container for the six weeks ahead.
You'll also create a vision of the woman you're choosing to become.
This is your first act of initiation: bringing intention, structure, protection and devotion to your own journey.
How do I teach?
Real. Embodied. Courageous. Transformational.
I will invite you to slow down.
To feel.
To liberate the truth.
To meet the parts of yourself that are uncomfortable without saving you.
I will challenge you lovingly.
Celebrate your courage.
Hold you with warmth, honesty, and deep respect.
Because I believe the relationship you long for begins with the relationship you build with yourself.
Is INITIATE for me if I'm currently single?
What if I'm already in a relationship?
Is this programme only for heterosexual women?
Why do we work with the Masculine Archetype?
Is this therapy?
What if I've already done a lot of personal development / therapy?
I'm not very comfortable with my body. Is this for me?
Is this challenge sexually explicit?
What if I'm afraid of what I might discover?
What if I can't attend every live session?
JOIN INITIATE
INITIATE is an experiential coaching and personal-development programme, not psychotherapy or trauma treatment. Participation in all practices is optional. No sexual activity or disclosure of personal trauma is required.
Stop waiting to be chosen. Start choosing.
You don't need to become someone else to deserve love.
You don't need to prove that you're worthy.
You can become a woman who loves wholeheartedly, stands for herself, recognises healthy intimacy and remains devoted to her own life.
Whatever happens, I won't give up on myself.