What if the biggest thing standing in the way of love was not other people…
but your body not knowing how to feel safe in intimacy? 

Here are two stories of previous participants: 

 

Sarah desperately wanted a relationship where she could be fully herself. But every time conflict appeared, she froze. She stayed quiet, over-accommodated, and silently hoped people would notice her needs without her asking.

Within weeks of learning nervous system and co-regulation practices, she finally had the first difficult conversation of her life without collapsing.

Her words: "For the first time I realised I wasn't actually scared of conflict. I was scared of losing love."

Matthew kept finding himself becoming anxious in relationships. Checking messages. Overthinking. Needing reassurance. Fearing "not being good enough." What he discovered instead: he had never learned how to create safety inside himself.

Different stories. Same pattern.

👉 You learned that safety came from other people.

So now relationships quietly become: "Please make me feel okay."

And that creates pressure on yourself and who ever you are in relationship with. 

Let's change that. 

 Safe in Intimacy is a STEP BY STEP SYSTEM combining meditation, somatics, breathwork, journaling, shadow-work and Sex Magic to help rewire your body to feel safe in intimacy again 

Join the Challenge Now for £22

This challenge is for you if... 

  • you want more honesty and depth in your relationships, but you avoid hard conversations
  • you struggle with insecurity, self-worth, or fear of abandonment or dependency 
  • you shut down, people-please, get anxious, clingy, controlling, or avoidant when intimacy gets real
  • you want to stop projecting your need for safety onto others
  • you find it hard to set boundaries or express what you really feel
  • you want to feel safer in friendship, dating, partnership, and family relationships
  • you know your attachment patterns are affecting your love life and your ability to be authentic

You do not need to be in a romantic relationship for this challenge to help you.

This work applies to intimacy in all forms:
with friends, partners, family, and yourself.

 

FROM SELF-PROTECTION TO INTIMACY

What you'll learn here is not intellectual. It is an embodied, spiritually-rooted process that helps you:

  • understand what safety actually feels like in the body
  • build self-regulation skills for moments of stress and trigger
  • work with your inner child and understand your attachment wounds more deeply
  • recognize the protector parts that block intimacy
  • shift beliefs that make closeness feel unsafe
  • use breathwork and somatic practices to create more inner stability
  • practice co-regulation with other people and with nature
  • communicate more vulnerably and honestly
  • have conversations you’ve been avoiding
  • take action toward more authentic, regulated, and pleasurable connection

In 2 weeks, I’ll teach you how to stop waiting for other people to make you feel safe — and start creating the kind of intimacy you actually want

 

Days 1-4: Self-regulation

 

You begin by learning what safety actually is — not as an idea, but as a felt experience in the body. We do this through somatic experiencing, inner child work and pleasure practices. 

Days 5–10: Empowerment through shadow work and breath work

Now we go deeper into the parts of you that are trying to protect you. You’ll explore your protector parts and reprogram your nervous system in a way you start believing that you are save even when you are taking risks in intimacy. 

Days 11–14: Bringing safety into your relationships 

Finally, you learn how to apply this in real life. You’ll explore co-regulation, vulnerability and authentic expression, how to have difficult conversations you’ve been avoiding and how to bring safety, action, and pleasure together. 

Why This Challenge?

So many of us struggle in intimacy.

And that makes sense.

We are living in a time of rising uncertainty, and our nervous systems feel it. Since the pandemic, mental ill health has accelerated across OECD countries, and research suggests that COVID-related uncertainty has affected relationship satisfaction and couple stability.

 

So often, beneath the communication problems, the sexual shutdown, the conflict, the avoidance, or the neediness, there is a deeper issue:

a safety problem. I know this from personal experience and from my work with hundreds of clients. 

Love starts to feel not like love anymore.

Connection feels scary, too much, not enough, too painful, not trustworthy. 

Safe in Intimacy helps change that from the inside out.

 

I'M BIBI.

I have worked with hundreds of women, men, couples, and LGBTQ+ clients on their relationships, partnerships, and sex lives.

What I know for sure is this: safety is the foundation of intimacy. Without it, people shut down, avoid conflict, lose access to desire, struggle to communicate, and repeat the same painful patterns in love.

That is why my approach is tantric, body-based, and transformational. I work with breath, nervous system regulation, sexuality, consciousness, and the deeper emotional patterns that shape how we love.

I am VITA certified through Layla Martin and trained in relationship psychology, shamanism, tantra, conscious kink, shadow work, meditation, and visualization. My work is informed by teachers such as Layla Martin, Terry Real, and Esther Perel.

For more than seven years, I have supported people in building safer, more honest, more connected, and more alive relationships from the inside out.

Over 14 days, we will move through 4 core steps:

Step 1: CREATE SAFETY IN YOUR BODY
Learn what safety actually feels like on a somatic level and begin building self-regulation tools.

Step 2: UNDERSTAND YOUR FEARS, TRIGGERS, AND PROTECTOR PARTS
Explore your inner child, attachment patterns, and the parts of you that try to keep intimacy at a distance.

Step 3: BUILD NEW PATHWAYS FOR SAFETY, TRUTH, AND CONNECTION
Work with breath, belief change, and embodied practices that help intimacy feel more possible.

Step 4: BRING THIS INTO YOUR REAL RELATIONSHIPS
Learn how to co-regulate, communicate vulnerably, and have the conversations you’ve been avoiding.

 

This is a live, guided challenge for people who want more honesty, depth, and security in their relationships, but still struggle with fear, insecurity, avoidance, or self-protection.

Live Calls

1 June — 6pm BST
10 June — 6pm BST
14 June — 6pm BST
24 June — Bonus Integration Call

All calls are recorded

Includes

  • workbook
  • 4 x 90-minute live calls
  • WhatsApp group
  • 14 days of guided challenge practices

 

Starts 1 June at 6pm BST

Doors close at 5pm BST

This is a live challenge, not an online course.
All practices will be deleted 2 weeks after the challenge ends.

Join the challenge for £22

How do I teach? 

Real, vulnerable, body-centric, and juicy. 

I will take you to your edge. 

I will invite you to feel.

I will teach you energy orgasms and Sex Magic. 

I will ask uncomfortable questions. 

I will hold you safely. 

I will motivate you. 

Because I know what it feels like to want a kind of love that feels out of reach. 

 

 

 

Safety isn't certainty. Safety is knowing:

"Whatever happens... I know how to stay with myself."

Safe in Intimacy

For people who want love—but no longer want fear to lead the way.

By the end of these 14 days you will:

  • Understand why intimacy feels difficult
  • Know how to regulate yourself when fear appears
  • Understand your triggers and protective patterns
  • Feel more grounded and authentic
  • Learn communication tools for deeper intimacy
  • Stop expecting others to create all your safety
  • Begin creating relationships that feel honest, open, and real
Join the challenge for only £22