ABOUT

HOW AM I UNIQUE #1

I am an animist. I believe that in order to heal our relationships and our sexuality, we need to heal our relationship with the Earth and with Spirit. I believe our current crisis is rooted in a spiritual crisis, and thus strongly recommend everyone to develop a relationship to the original Gods and Goddesses.

HOW AM I UNIQUE #2

I love working with plant-medicine and psychedelics. I believe these are useful allies in our journey of healing and transformation. However, I don't trust these medicines blindly and believe they are only effective with a continued commitment to integration.

HOW AM I UNIQUE #3

I have a Masters Degree in Marine Ecology. I love to not rely on science but feel excited when science can explain what most spiritual traditions knew for millennia. For me, the truth must be free from dogma, but rather connected to our own direct experience.

I'M BIBI

I’m a Relationship Alchemist — which means I guide couples and individuals through the fires of conflict, heart-break, trauma, and betrayal… not to destroy what is, but to transmute it.

Into intimacy.

Into truth.

Into something more sacred.

I work with couples who are often standing at a threshold:
Do we stay or go?
Can we rebuild after the rupture?
Can we trust again — or deeper than ever before?

I specialise in helping partners move from reactivity to devotion, from trauma loops to truth-telling, from resentment into erotic aliveness.

I also work with sacred sexuality as a powerful path for healing and reconnection — with the body, with each other, with the divine.

MY TEACHERS

My teachers are Layla Martin, Kendra Cunov, John Wineland, John Hawken, Takh'i Dyandeepa, and Thich Nhat Hanh.

My spiritual practices are tantra, mindfulness and other forms of meditation, 5-rhythms and ecstatic dance, ashtanga yoga, shamanism, esoteric cosmology, and ‘The Cross’ - a map that works with nonduality and duality, as well as ego, body, and soul.

I have gained qualifications in Sex and Relationship Coaching (Layla Martin's VITA Method), Systemic Constellations (CSC Center for Systemic Constellations in London), Authentic Relating, Relational Meditation (at ART - Authentic Relating Training), Neo-tantra (Nikkila Temple, Finland), Archetypal Psychology (Caroline Myss), Masculine and Feminine Archetypes and Shadow Work (The Cross, Takh'i Dyandeepa), Grief Coaching (Rose Diamond), and Trauma Release (TRE@, Trauma Release Exercises). I have also studied in places like Tamera (Community in Portugal), Plum Village (Zen-Buddhist Monestry in France), and Schumacher College (College for Systemic Transition, England).

MY STORY

This is more than my work — this is my lived path.

I am a tantrica, a yogini, an artist, a partner, a lover, a stepmother, and a small business owner.
I am partly queer, partly woman, bisexual by orientation, and soul-led in every way I can be.

I’ve walked through many portals.

I have experienced sexual abuse.

Patriarchal control.

Relational breakdowns.

Mental illness and suicide.

Poverty.

Disempowerment.

That's why I began to search for a deeper meaning, for better ways to relate, and for an understanding of our broken world.

Before this life, I was a Marine Ecologist, working with a UN body on climate and ocean protection in the developing world.
But beneath the data and policy, I began to see what no grant proposal could solve:

The lack of connection - from ourselves, our bodies, from other people, from community, from the land and the waters, and from love.

It struck me deeply that at the core of our planetary crisis is a spiritual crisis, and a crisis of all our relations.

Not just romantic relations — but our relationship to power, truth, desire, the feminine, the earth… and to each other.

I realised: if we want to heal the world, we must also heal how we love.

And that healing, for me, began in my own body.

I’ve walked through betrayal, relational rupture, and sexual abuse. I’ve lived through the suppression of my voice, the performance of my sexuality, and the shrinking of my truth to keep others comfortable.

For a long time, I thought my wounds were personal. But the deeper I went, the more I saw — they were collective. The symptoms of a culture built on dominance, fear, and separation.

That’s when I began devoting myself to a new path:
To reclaiming the sacred in sexuality.
To restoring wholeness through relational repair.
To rewriting the story of love — not in theory, but in practice.

What I believe:

That trauma is real, and so is healing.
That sacred relationships are possible — even after rupture.
That sexuality is not something we need to “fix,” but something we need to remember.
That love without freedom isn’t love.
That pleasure is medicine.
That presence is power.
That our relationships are portals to awakening — if we’re willing to step in fully.

Who I work with:

I work with conscious high-achievers.

With individuals and couples who are struggling with frequent fights, trauma responses, or betrayal — including the subtle kinds: emotional shutdowns, broken trust, unmet needs.

Many of the couples I support are drawn to non-monogamous or monogamish paths, or are simply seeking a non-ordinary, conscious relationship — one that honours both personal freedom and deep commitment.

Often, they are tired of repeating the same patterns.
They want to reconnect — emotionally, erotically, energetically — but don’t know how.
They long to feel safe, sovereign, and turned on in the same breath.

And they’re ready to do the work to get there.

Why Sacred Sexuality?

Because the body remembers.
Because the nervous system doesn’t lie.
Because the way we touch — and are touched — matters.

Sacred sexuality offers a portal out of reactivity and into ritual.
It allows us to rewire safety, rebuild trust, and open to new forms of intimacy that are rooted in reverence, not performance.

This isn’t just about sex. It’s about coming home — to yourself, to your partner, and to the erotic intelligence of life itself.

My wish?

That we learn to tell the truth.
That we stop betraying ourselves in order to be loved.
That we remember how to love without losing who we are.
That we become multi-orgasmic, heart-open, radically honest, and divinely messy human beings.

And that our relationships become not prisons or performances…
but temples.
Portals.
Places of transformation.

With love and fire,
Bibi

"Bibi is a gifted space-holder. The way she works feels very safe, and challenging in the best way. She isn't afraid to be direct, while she is kind and present. I feel more open, honest and understanding of myself.'

Mark Picthall, Photographer

"Bibi offers really incredible tools and techniques that I find really valuable and helpful for relating with my partner and with others. I can highly recommend her."

Dom, EFT Healer and Facilitator