A Love Letter to Men (And to Semen)
Aug 08, 2025
Ancient futures are calling...
We’ve spoken about menstrual blood a few weeks ago.
We’ve spoken about shame, polyamory and healing.
But there’s something even more taboo I feel called to write about today.
And that is the sacredness of semen.
Yes, semen.
The life-giving, soul-filled, often-dismissed elixir of the masculine.
🕊 My Devotion to the Sacred Masculine
I have a deep love for men.
Not just as lovers, but as beings.
I love men for their innocent power, that version of men that don't get so hung up about making a dream come true - even if it’s big.
I love men for their depth, their exquisite tenderness and their vulnerability.
I love them for their desire to provide.
And for their presence, when they watch me or listen to me.
I love them for how awestruck they can be when they see beauty.
For their longing for peace and freedom in their heart.
I carry a prayer for the healing between men and women— which demands first a healing between the masculine and the feminine inside all of us individually.
Because this rift in love, in trust, in reverence, is not just personal.
It is cultural.
It is ancestral.
And it is time for this to heal.
As a soul in a female body devoted to sacred relationships and the union of opposites, I want to say clearly:
💧Semen is sacred.
It is the most precious thing a man can offer to life.
💫 A Drop of the Infinite
Let’s take a moment to admire the semen physically:
In a single ejaculation, the average man releases between 200 and 500 million sperm.
Jaw-dropping.
Each one, a spark of potential.
Each one, a whisper of life.
The body has to work hard to create it. In fact, it takes about 64–72 days to produce a full cycle of sperm. The body draws on zinc, magnesium, vitamin C, B12, protein, testosterone, and energy.
It’s not just a “release.”
It’s an offering.
🔥 Sacred Sex, Not Fast Food
Most men have never been taught this.
We live in a culture that treats sex as a transaction.
Porn tells men to waste their seed.
Society tells men to “get it over with.”
And women, often unknowingly, absorb and reinforce these messages.
But just like a woman’s blood, a man’s semen is not waste.
It is life-giving.
It is creative power.
Some people believe that ancient tantric and Taoist traditions reject ejaculation.
Even though I believe learning how to have other orgasms than ejaculating is absolutely crucial to be a masterful lover, I don’t think ejaculation generally should be rejected—but revered.
It's not about suppression.
Learning how not to ejaculate becomes about choice.
It's about becoming so attuned to your own body, so clear in your intention, so present with your lover, that when you do choose to release your seed—it feels sacred.
🌹 Sacred Semen as an Offering
There was a time, we knew instinctively to say thanks to the land, to the air, to the waters and the soil.
99% of our ancestors practiced giving thanks and making offerings in the form of song, music, spoken word, food, and other precious materials and pieces of art.
This, so our ancestors believed, balanced the cycles of life. It was about becoming attuned to the fact that everything is connected and dependent on everything else.
It was in honour of life, that our ancestors made offerings.
And I believe this is what we have to remember again.
I believe that there is a connection between climate change, spiritual crisis, and economic crisis and our disconnection from honouring the other than human world.
In other words, I believe we need to make offerings again.
The most sacred, precious thing that we can offer as humans isn’t gold or art. It isn’t song or poetry.
It is that what creates life itself: the semen and the menstrual blood.
What if you treated semen as the most sacred thing you have, not as something to be wiped off with a tissue and then thrown in the bin?
What if it wasn't just "what happens at the end"...
But something to be fully present with, something to feel.
To honour.
To offer…
- Semen trickling down the thighs like anointment.
- Semen rubbed into the skin like gold-infused oil.
- Semen placed gently on the altar as an offering to life, to love, to the Divine, to Creation Energy.
- Semen offered to the fire with a prayer.
Semen mixed with blood and used in manifestation rituals.
When blood and semen come together, the feminine and the masculine meet.
These are the most sacred offerings we can make as humans.
And we need to make offerings, brothers and sisters.
Blood and semen together are the most potent alchemical union—a literal merging of motherly and fatherly creation.
🌀 Semen Retention as Devotion
Having said this, learning about semen retention is crucial to become a masterful lover, and also not to waste potent, powerful energy.
This is not about shaming ejaculation.
This is about claiming your power back.
It’s about having a choice.
It’s about attunement.
Tantric and Taoist paths teach non-ejaculatory practices not as a means of denial, but as a way of deepening erotic power and presence.
When a man learns to:
- breathe deeply during arousal,
- circulate his energy through the spine,
- Contract and relax his pelvic floor,
- move his awareness out of his genitals and into the whole body and the field of his partner’s energy
…he becomes a better lover, a more embodied being, and a powerful creator.
🌿 Why It Matters To Love Men especially at this Time
I see men are tired.
Tired of feeling objectified, used as a wallet, judged and put in a box that’s too small.
Tired of not knowing what women want or how to give it to them.
Tired of being expected to dominate or disappear.
I believe men are craving to be seen in their depth.
Craving to be honoured for their beauty, their sensitivity, their life force.
And yes, craving to be revered for their semen—not in a fetishized way, but in a soul-honouring way.
🐍 An Invitation to Reverence
To my sisters:
The next time you receive a man’s seed, can you feel the sacred in it?
Can you whisper gratitude to it?
Can you offer it to the earth, the altar, the fire?
To my brothers:
The next time you feel the rise of your pleasure, can you pause and breathe?
Can you feel the miracle you are?
Can you choose, with awareness, when to hold and when to offer?
We are healing the wound between the masculine and the feminine.
Not by going to war with each other.
Not by denying the hurt we have caused each other.
Not by pretending we haven’t been hurt.
But by remembering the sacredness in all of us.
By celebrating our fluids, our bodies, our differences.
Thank you for being part of this remembering.
With reverence for the seed,
Bibi Gratzer
Sacred Sex and Relationship Coach
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