Shame is a familiar feeling for me.

As a teenager, I got myself into both anorexia and bulimia—two devouring addictions that often go unnamed as what they really are: shame and rage internalised so d...

Am I Safe?

That’s the question I return to again and again.

In the middle of a fight.
In the darkness of the night walking on my own.

Showing vulnerability towards my friends.
During rough sex. 
I...

My highest vision is to heal the collective wounds between men and women. 

One of the wounds that is still gaping open like the mouth of a Baleen whale on its hunt, is the one around sexual abuse. 

Let’s talk about the part of you you’ve been trying to hide.

The one you judge or feel ashamed of. 
The one you bury.

The dark side of yourself, that you'd rather not know or own, but that is still ...

Since the Dark Eros Retreat at the beginning of May, I’ve been reflecting on drama once again in my life — and how drama impacts our relationships, our nervous systems, and the stories we tell ourselv...

Let's talk about jealousy. 

Not the soft, theoretical kind.
The real kind.
The kind that coils in the gut. That floods your chest. That has you gripping the edge of your seat, holding your breath, tr...

I am a devotee of love. This means that I choose love over the parts of me that want to run away, hide, protect and defend.  

My partner and I hit rock bottom around the time of my retreat. We both w...

We often hear these days that we live in uncertain times. 

Climate change. Ecological crisis. Greater uncertainty about another world war. Financial uncertainty. Exponential increase of technology. P...

I imagine living in a world in which we live in full awareness of our enormous power, and are honest about the part of us that gets off on growing through pain and challenges (instead of complainin...

I am currently visiting family in Austria.

The house where I grew up belongs to my godparents. They are both 84 but you couldn't tell, they are healthy, young, active, funny and busy. Equally imp...

One of my teachers once said "we have hearts so that they can break." Without a broken heart, we’d never learn about gratitude or humility. We’d be trapped in our ego self, thinking that we are in con...

Self-pleasure is still a taboo in our culture. Even in sex-positive circles such as Temples, at the Tantra Festival in Goa, or in Fetish clubs, self-pleasuring is more edgy than interacting with ot...